You’re tired of dating. Many people are sick of it, too. It’s funny how dating apps and websites have made it easier for us to find a potential partner, and yet meeting the right person seems harder than ever. With dozens of dates and nothing to show for it, it’s easy to become jaded or discouraged about dating in the age of smartphones.
I’m not saying that you need to find a partner right away. The single life has its perks too: you don’t have to share your apartment with a stranger, you’re free to do what you want, and no more expensive dinners and gifts. However, we know that this can’t last forever, and we still want to share our life with someone.
The dating journey is filled with risks and difficulties. Even if you subscribe to an elite dating service, there’s no guarantee that you’ll meet someone you like who likes you back. There are ways to make dating easier, though.
1. Don’t let dating consume you
It’s easy to get fixated on the idea of the perfect guy or gal, so much so that we spend much of our waking hours thinking about how to meet them. But you shouldn’t let dating be the center of your social life. Focus on your well-being first. If you work on your health, career, and hobbies, you make yourself a more well-rounded person.
2. First impressions aren’t everything
Many people work extra hard to make a great first impression. They buy the right clothes, get the right hairstyle, work on their conversations, and so on. These are all helpful, but you shouldn’t put too much weight on the first impression. Why? For starters, they’re not exactly that reliable.
Someone can seem charming at first, only to realize later on that there’s something dark lurking underneath. On the other hand, that awkward guy could be someone you can spend the rest of your life with. It’s essential to see the person in a variety of situations if you want to see their true self.
3. Be genuine
We all try to present the best version of ourselves, but it shouldn’t come at the cost of truth. There’s nothing to be gained from lying about your flaws and shortcomings. Everyone has them, and if you want to build a lasting relationship, you want to meet someone who will like you for who you are, not the person you’d like to be. And who knows? Maybe you’re too hard on yourself, and your supposed flaws are just quirks.
4. Show interest
We all know the signs: glassy eyes, the stifled yawn, the occasional glance at their phone. All of these suggest that they can’t wait for the date to end. Sometimes, it’s not your fault. But if you genuinely want to become more successful in dating, you need to show an active interest in the person you’re with.
People can spot a fake from a mile away. Try to make a genuine connection and ask thoughtful questions.
Dating is tricky, but it’s not impossible. Hopefully, these tips will help improve your chances of meeting someone you can share your life with. With patience and perseverance, you can have a healthy and loving relationship that will last for a long time.