Lets Talk About Boobs
AdventureDad | January 22
A few months ago my wife complained her boobs were too huge and hard. Sounds like a dream to me except I couldn’t come close to the boobies without being drenched in breast milk. We were cutting down on the breastfeeding after month 12 but the boobs apparently didn’t get the message. Fast forward a few months, my wife comes out of the bathroom screaming “My boobs are gone, I’m flat!” This brings up the subject of a boob job, I’m all for it but we seem to differ on what direction to take.
My wife isn’t one of those shallow, pee-brained, actor/model wannabe types who think having surgery on the whole body is a great idea. She feels taking Advil is border line drug abuse so when she’s suggesting boob job I think it’s time to listen. She can’t be only woman felling good about herself but still thinking two children did something to her boobies? Ever felt the urge to do something to the boobs after given birth and breastfeeding two children?
I vaguely remember us discussing this before having our first child. I was fine with it then and this hasn’t changed. My wife has good sized boobs and is thinking about a simple lift. She doesn’t care about modeling or stuff like that, she just wants her boobs back. I figure since we’re doing something, why not kick it up a notch. Or two. So we’re having these hilarious discussions between ourselves and other couples. We might be at the airport and my wife grabs my arm, “Hey, check out the boobs on that girl, what do you think?”
People over here don’t freak out over boobs, it’s no big deal. We’ve got no problem with the “clothing malfunction” during Super Bowl. You can see far more than that walking through any park during summer time or entering the common sauna at the hotel/health club where people are mostly naked.
So my wife is thinking “lift”, I’m thinking Jordan. We’re right now in the negotiating stage, decision will be made later at some point. Aiming for the Jordan look is kind of a joke but I’m sure why wife has realized this long ago. Although I like the Jordan boobs, I don’t think my wife will appreciate the porn star look. I politely suggested buying some nice high heeled boots with the Jordan boobies but was told to cut down on the downloading of porn:-)
There must be many smart, intelligent, and confident women thinking about this after having children? Or is this subject too embarrassing to talk about for most? Did I just make this blog X-rated?
I don’t know if I would be categorized as “smart, intelligent, and confident” nor do I have 2 children. I only have one and he’s 7 months and I’m still breastfeeding. Two days after he was born I went from B cup to DD! I exaggerate you not. I have pics where my boobs are bigger than my son’s head. This was weird for me, as I often got teased in school for being flat chested.
Now, after a feeding, my boobs barly fill a B. I often worry about what it will be like when I’m done breastfeeding or if we have another kid. Pre-baby I’ve thought about surgery, but not seriously. I think about it more now.
My significant other (he so much more than a boyfriend but technically not a fiance/hubby) isn’t for surgical cosmetic alterations, of any kind, as far as I know (maybe he’s keeping mum about it) As long as he doesn’t complain, though, I think I’ll keep myself as is, even if I cry about the girls! I jsut remind myself that at least I have more then I had and for a month post partum I didn’t even know what to do with them (my son was in the hosp)!!!
My wife and I have had a similar discussion and she hasn’t even had our baby yet. And I still have the red mark on my face that I got after I gave her my suggestion…
I want a boob job in the worst way, but I’m waiting until after babies to get one.
Wow! Not what I was expecting to see this morning when I hit your site, but it wsa a NICE surprise…ya know?
I’m right with you on the breast implant thing. I never thought I’d even consider it as something I’d support my wife on until after our second child and my wife’s girls went from full to flat. She hasn’t brought the issue up and for me, bringing it up would be akin to my volunteering that “Yes, those pants do make your butt look fat!” It’s just not a conversation I’m going to initiate.
But man, great way to start the day!
-Dobe
As someone whose “girls” would be sold at Costco in bulk rather than at the local mini mart, I would cation anyone considering going “big box”. After strolling around the warehouse, you have to lug all your goods out to the car. There are many out there who have pulled back muscles from lugging their bulk items around for years. Plastic or natural, after a while it isn’t worth the club membership.
Do as mother nature intended and go “locally grown”. If you must add to the cart, do so in moderation.
My baby is almost 5 months old and I noticed just the other day that mine are terribly flat. While I was nursing both, the girls were fabulously full, but now, they’re very sad. I was just thinking to myself, when I really noticed the flatness of them, that a lift or a little help wouldn’t be all that bad. (Sounds like I’m very much like your wife when it comes to plastic surgery, meds, etc.)
We have 2 kids and -probably- won’t have any more, but I will wait to see if we’re truly finished procreating before seeking out surgery to get back what I had, and then some because then it wasn’t -that- much.
Pregnancy and breastfeeding take so much from a woman’s body. It’s rare that women bounce back and look like supermodels (a la Heidi Klum or Jenny Ferrill). So, I say, more power to your wife and any woman who wants to do a little tweaking.
First step: lingerie. “The girls” are different after being out in the workforce, so to speak, make sure their wardrobe has been updated-meaning fit (insert statistic about women and ill-fitting bras here-I’m too lazy) and style.
When thinking about a lift, be realistic about pain, scarring, and recovery time. If considering implants, one thing most of us fail to consider is that implants weigh MORE than natural boobs-which means a lot when one thinks about lugging around even “smaller” sized implants. Furthermore, it might be necessary for the work to proceed in two more more steps: first a lift (anchor incision under breast and incision around nipple, tissue removal, then re-anchoring of nipple. Complications include: possible loss of nipple sensitivity and possible difficulties in future breast-feeding.) Possibly separately a procedure to build a staging, so to speak, to support implants (it depends on the condition of your wife’s breasts). Implants would be separate procedure, months later, typically. Again, loss of sensation in nipples is a possibility.
Consultations with plastic surgeons are inevitable if you are to proceed, but one should be pretty sure one wants an enhancement, IMO, before speaking those words aloud-all the language about “proper proportions” etc, is really hard-hitting. Oddly enough, I have no recommendations for surgeons in Sweden, but if you were to come to the states…
A lift doesn’t sound like a terrible thing but an enhancement, i’m not for them, although I don’t yet have children and have large natural breasts. I can tell you that large breasts result in painful problems, I can’t begin to tell you the back pain I have as a result of D’s and highly suggest keeping to a C if she were to get any enhancement at all. On the note of enhancements, talk to a LOT of surgeons and talk to A LOT of their patients before going through with anything. Throughout my lifetime of work and women’s locker rooms at the gym I have seem some of the most butchered boob jobs you have EVER seen. IMO in a nutshell it’s not worth risking nipple sensitivity or the potential back pain to add on a few CC’s of saline.
been there, thought about it, discussed it. i went from alright boobs to feeling like the saggy baggy elephant. yeah, they’re alright when i’m pregnant or i’m nursing, but afterwards they always take a dive…. and i mean that kind of in the literal sense as well. i’m not looking to balloon up like i’m about to take off, but i’ve decided that when we’re done - that’s going to be my reward. for years of having to get up in the middle of the night and change way more nappies than my husband EVER will, for being puked on, and for getting through the thing that caused me to lose my boobs in the first place. just a little lift. and a little filling out. thats all.
oh, and my husband says ‘i like you the way you are, i think you look great’ but for me it was never about how other people percieved me, it’s all about how i percieve myself. and i know that i feel so much better when i think i have ‘nice’ boobs. regardless of what anyone else thinks of me.
OMG…I am so glad I found this insert..I’ve been missing out not reading blog Fathers…what’s wrong with me….I’m in your wife’s corner…I need a boob job..I had nice boobs…and after the first one..it wasn’t so bad..but the second one completely deflated the girls…I didn’t have much before..now its so small my nipples sag…how sad…I’m weepin’ for my girls and her girls..I don’t want big girls..just enough to fill a bra..a B or a C cup…but this tiny lump is for the dogs!
I didn’t quite fill my B cups again after weaning my younger daughter, and it was a little depressing after sporting a DD nursing bra for a year.
Fast forward 7 years and a 10 pound weight gain. Guess where the 10 pounds landed? yep, in the bra.
Dear Wife may want to wait another year or two, just in case.
My wife says she lost her boobs after her first two kids were born, now after our two kids were born she has lost some more size. I keep trying to get her to get a boob job but she just will not do it. HAve not gotten slapped yet so I guess thats a good thing.
I reallly like big boobs so i can have a nice big handfull.
I reallly like big boobs so i can have a nice big handfull.
I reallly like big boobs so i can have a nice big handfull.
I reallly like big boobs so i can have a nice big handfull.
I reallly like big boobs so i can have a nice big handfull.
I reallly like big boobs so i can have a nice big handfull.