Easier? Boy or girl?
Poop and Boogies | August 3I am one of 9 kids. My sister, the one and only girl, is the oldest and the rest of us are boys. My mom has said on several occasions that it was easier to raise 8 boys than it was to raise one girl. I do not think that my sister was all that bad as a child, nor as a teenager. When pressed for more details from my mom as to why boys are easier to raise she has always said, “They just are.” I also need to point out that my mom is the oldest of 12 and she has 9 sisters. So I think she has more experience with the whole raising boys vs. girls than most people.
I have asked other family and friends the same question. What sex is easier to raise to adulthood? Girls or Boys? And I always get different feedback.
“Girls are easier when they are younger because they are not as rambunctious as boys, but once they become teenagers it flips and the boys are easier to handle.”
“Boys fight and it is over with. Girls hold grudges.”
“Girls are more loving and easier to nurture.”
“You don’t have as much worry with boys.”
“When raising a boy you only have to worry about one penis. When raising a girl you have to worry about EVERY penis.”
Then there are some of the old fashion ways of thinking in regards to paying for a daughters wedding, teaching a boy how to be a man vs. teaching a girl how to be a lady and independent at the same time.
What is your opinion, people of the Internet? Which is easier, boy or girl?
I can’t answer as I have only girls. I hear many of the things you quoted out there in the world at large.
I seem to either get sympathy (which, you know, I’ll take any day of the week, Saint Linda that I am, martyr, mother of 5 girls, come come feel sorry for me) but it bugs the crap out of me when people act as if girls are just naturally EASIER. I’m not sure how it all looks at a macro level, but in my house, we have sword fights and wrestling and mad karate skills practiced upon each other CONSTANTLY. So I always tell people not to assume some dainty little tea party thing… My girls are running, jumping, climbing active, too.
sometimes I wonder if it defers from child to child.
my nephew, who is 10, is pretty easy going and pretty independent.
his sister, who is 8, is a handful. she was a difficult child even at birth. she used to throw tantrums, even as an infant, and it would make my sister just walk out of a store because of it. she is also such a girly girl and acts like she’s 30 instead of 8. she harasses her brother all the time.
if I can answer for my sister it would be girls but again depends on the child and situations. why is there never an easy answer to these questions??
I only have girls and they are a handful. My three year old is completely dramatic, but overall she’s extremely well behaved and gentle with everyone and everything. We had a boy visiting for 5 days and and he was like a viscious tornado running through our house. I know not all boys are like that, though.
I just had to comment, the line about having to worry about every penis just about had me rolling on the floor here at work. Classic! Carry on. :)
Between my husband and myself (a blended family) we have six kids–five boys and one girl. The girl (who is the youngest of the older kids at thirteen) is my daughter, and I think out of all of them she is the most emotionally draining/demanding with tantrums and mood swings. She has always been that way. However, the boys all have their own quirks, too. So I don’t know. I would have to say that the purely emotional energy raising a daughter (at least my daughter) makes her the most difficult so far. But we’ll see. The jury is still out.
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Neither are easy…at least not today.
I grew up in a house with four girls and we had a whole range of personalities between us. My little girl is already a handful, having tantrums at the tender age of 10 months and generally letting us know that she believes she is in charge. I think will is the big factor. The stronger the will, the stronger you have to be the deal with the child. I would also say the girls take the prize for Machiavellian schemes.
Since i have a boy i will say a boy is easier, but that’s just cuz i have no daughter to compare to. My girlfriend has a little girl and i have told her the line about me only having to worry about one penis and her having to worry about all of them quite a few times. But our children have such different personalities. She admits even that in some ways mine is easier. I dont think it is really gender based tho, it is only in personality. And at this young age (birth -4yrs) much of their personality isnt really about being a boy or a girl. Gender roles are not set in stone, especially not that young. So really, i have no opinion.
I’ve never heard anyone saying a girl is easier. Not once. THe explanation given is usually something about emotional issues and more random behavior and nagging. But I couldn’t care less. We’re having a girl any day now and I’m very excited. Girl or boy, I just don’t care. But if I had 5 boys I would definitely want a girl, and vice versa.
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I’ve got one of each, but I’m also the oldest of 4 (three girls, one boy). While my brother had his moments, it was my middle sister who won the prize for most difficult child, and my youngest sister is still in jr. high. But trust me, she won’t be making a run at that title.
My daughter is a full-out strong willed drama queen. She has a mouth and an attitude to match it (which displayed itself even when she couldn’t speak properly). My mom commented that it was a good thing she didn’t know any profanity, because there were times we thought she was swearing at us. And yet she can be very loving and sweet and can get her feelings hurt easily in certain situations.
My son’s almost a year old, and he has been a laid-back cuddlebug from day one. He only cried about very specific things: he was hungry, he wanted to be held, he needed a diaper change, or his sister was harassing him. Now that he’s older, he still cries when she takes toys from him, but he’s starting to fight back.
I think that while gender does play a role in how a child grows and begins to see his/herself, it’s more personality type (A or B) that determines how a kid behaves and how the parents react. Regardless, I’m glad I have one of each - it makes it much easier to try for kid #3 someday. We call that baby “the tiebreaker.”
You know, I’ve talked to a lot of parents about this. my general theory:
Boys are harder when they’re really young and get easier tween-teen-adult years.
Girla are easier in the young years, but get tougher in tween, teen, and early adult years.
I certainly can’t call myself an expert - I have three boys under age four (and hope for at least one more) - but you have to figure the whole “wedding-thing” alone makes boys easier in the long-run…right?!?
I have no kids. But I have a friend who has a 2 1/2 year old daughter and just found out she’s expecting a boy in November. She is terrified of having a boy. I’m sure it’s because she only knows her daughter, but she’s afraid of her son being a tornado, running all over the place and karate-chopping his way through their home.
Every time I see her she rubs her belly and just says “I’m just not prepared for a boy!”
I’ll let you all know how she feels in a year or two!
I have 2 girls and 1 boy, and I think my girls are easier. He’s a middle child though, so maybe that comes into it?
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God Bless them All
man it’s all ahead of me - we’re expecting in 8-10 weeks - if i had a dollar for everyone who said my life will change completly i’d be rich - i’m starting to believe them !
Boys can’t get pregnant. They’re easier.
my mom has a boy and a girl, and she always says that she’d much rather raise 10 girls than 1 boy.
having a boy is absolutely easier than having a girl.
ABSOLUTELY.
I have 2 girls. I will never have to deal with daughter in laws:)
i do not think there is a diff. on a girl or boy…in
saying which one is easier to deal with cuz in the end it all comes down to how their raised and brought up and u cant determine which one is going to be easier by their gender~~!!!!!!!!!!!pEOPLE! for one being easier is based on opinion first of all!!!!!
but either way they both could have there diff issues and problems
because there onlyy human and of course you would have to deal with diff. types of issues depending on the gender… but either way it could go down hill
&
im 14!!!!!!!!!!!! &
a girl!!!!!!!!!!
so what…