Don’t tell me
Child's Play x2 | July 19First, let me say that we love our daycare provider. She obviously loves our twins and gets so much joy out of seeing them every day. Having said that, she does one thing that really bugs me.
Before I explain what that one thing is, I should mention that one of the hardest aspects of dropping our twins off at daycare five days a week is the fear that they will achieve a monumental milestone without my wife or myself witnessing the first crawl/step/word, etc.
So, what is the thing that really bugs me about our daycare provider? Well, without fail, everytime we have witnessed what we thought was the first time they crawled, pulled themselves up, waved, clapped, etc. when we excitedly mentioned to her what we had seen the next morning upon dropping them off for the day she replies, “Oh yeah, s/he was doing that last week.”
You can feel the excitement deflating us like a balloon with a large hole. Psssssssssssss.
There should be some type of daycare provider code of conduct that specifically prohibits them from telling us things like that. Can’t she just pretend that we saw it first?
I think you should mention this to her. I would hope she understands your position as a parent. Why don’t folks just learn to keep their mouths closed with specific instances, like this one?
Absolutely! I think she has a moral obligation to shine on all parents to avoid possible parent deflation. It would increase positive attitudes in the work force. Which would increase productivity. Which would then lower hours worked. Which would cause less time spent at day care…Wait
There it is! It’s a conspiracy! Day care works are actually trained to be totally insensitive in order to increase money made at day cares.
Well it’s my theory anyway, and I’m sticking to it.
When my oldest son was in day care as a toddler, he had a favourite carer. There were some days when she wore scent and we used to hate it. We’d pick him up and he’d be smelling of someone else. An outrage. Perfume and day care should be mutually exclusive.
I just want the nursery workers at out church to stop feeding my son goldfish crackers - isn’t it my God-given right to bribe my child with processed cheese products???
Tell her. I told my day care providers, that I didn’t want to know when mine walked. I wanted to think it was the first time when I saw it first. Then I took video of it and labeled it Maya’s first steps or whatever.
You can’t win. If you work, you miss out on your kids. If you don’t work, you miss out on career.
AMEN! Just one of the fears I have as B&B start daycare on Monday.
Ahhhh, I think she should be quiet - I would think that is in her contract, no? LOL. I will NEVER forget picking up my daughter from my SIL (I worked out of the home until she was a year old - now work from home) and she grabbed onto my SIL and CRIED and SCREAMED Ma-Ma. Yeah. Started working from home after that.
On the VERY day you wrote this, I left B&B with my sister for 5 hours to attend a work meeting. According to her, Baylee took her very first 2 steps EVER during this time. I refuse to believe it since I did not see it.
At a preliminary meeting with our daycare providers we were asked if we wanted to know about “firsts” or not. They were very sensitive to this issue. (One of many reasons we love the school.) They are always taking pictures or shooting video so we decided it was okay for them to tell us.
I’d definitely talk to the provider about this. It’s a simple request and they should be able to comply without a problem.
There absolutely IS an unwritten rule about that! Even my Mother-in-law knows better than to tell me if my kids do something monumental!