Hypothetically Speaking, a trilogy
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And it was nearly unanimus: capital punishment is perfectly acceptable.
Let’s try another one. This one borrowed from a friend.
You have two kids in full time day-care. One is 2 1/2 years and the other 6 months. You walk into the infant room to pick up the 6 monther. On the way out of the room is a mother with her toddler, her only child. This kid spends the day in class with your older child, in another room on the other side of the school. This mom says “Oh hey, we were just saying HI to your new baby. My son just loves her.” Implying that they’ve visited your infant on more than one occasion.
I know what I would want to do. What would you do?
Is the other Mom pregnant? Maybe she’s trying to get her kid to warm up to the idea of a new baby in the house.
I think it’s cute that they go out of the way to say, “Hi.”
I’m so over the “be wary of everyone” mantra. Yeah, there are some sucky people out there, but if you look at the probabilities of how many sucky people are out there out of the 260 Million people in the U.S., you probably won’t meet any of them.
I would just say something like “I don’t blame you, she’s damned cute. I believe I’ll start charging.”
I’d say, “Just an FYI to your son - she’s not allowed to date until she’s 25.”
Unless you know something extra about this particular child/mother, I’m not seeing anything particularly objectionable about this. I’m betting that the older sibling has “talked up” the new baby and the other little boy and mom have poked their heads in to take a peek more than once. And if you do it once, a toddler will always remind you to do it again.
I’m not clear on what the problem really is here - like Deanna said, it’s likely that the toddler just likes visiting babies (there are other babies in the daycare, I assume) and has taken a liking to yours. So unless one has an issue with Baby being exposed to other children (are we concerned with germ-transfer here? creepy attachment? possible baby-napping?) I don’t see the problem - this is a mom and child who are part of the same daycare as you and your children (that is, not strangers), and I assume that you’d have at least a passing aquaintanceship with them…
I’d agree with Eli, Rick, and Deanna, with the option for escalation if I get the gut feeling that the lady is creepy. Don’t underestimate your intuition (unless you have some kind of mental defect, in which case you should ignore your intuition).
I’m going to have to agree with what everyone else said. My toddler (19 months) adores babies. She wants to visit the baby class at daycare every morning. She also likes to pat them gently on thier heads. And she always looks at me and says gentle. And she said it real quietly. I think it is normal for kids at that age.
I think it’s okay. My 3 year old adores babies and will go out of her way to see one (but not touch!).
I dont see a problem. If you both belong to the same daycare then you arent complete strangers. And lots of toddlers like babies…and yours must be extra cute to be so special to that toddler. I would say, no worries.
Like everyone else, I don’t really see the problem. Unless you think she’s stalking you!
I dunno, I’d wonder why this parent is wandering around the daycare center and taking her child to a room where other people’s babies are. One time, it’s cute. But more than once would make me question things. I’m not sure how I would handle it though. Perhaps I would speak to the director of the center and casually ask if it’s their policy to allow adults -without infants- into the infant room.
It is obvious that this woman has admired you from afar and is using your child to get into your pants! Get her number and get some ass!!
Well.. I am not sure that there is a “problem” with the lady.. or the child care center. I previously worked in a center and we did not allow parents to wander around the center saying “hi” to other children or teachers for that matter. It was part of the guidelines.. for safety. If I were you I might speak to the director. The others maybe right and she may be getting the kid ready for a new baby and she may have cleared this with the director. I still think it is a little odd though.
I would punch her in the face! How dare she interact with your precious little one without your permission. NOT, I like interaction, Maybe get the Mom’s story from the director.
Ask her for her phone number…that ought to make her back off! (or cause lots of stalking-obsessive-psycho-boiling-rabbit behavior)
At my son’s daycare they frequently combine age groups if there are only a few kids in each room–either to let the teachers in one room go to lunch or to let some of them go home when most of the kids have been picked up. He’s two, and I often find him in the baby room when I pick him up in the evening. If your daycare has a similar policy, the toddlers might mix with the babies from time to time and the little boy in question might have “met” the baby that way.
My little guy absolutely loves looking at babies, and I understand that’s fairly common for his age. Unless the mother seems unusually unbalanced (speaking from experience, I’d say that all mothers of toddlers are a *little* unbalanced), I’d just assume that her child had a similar baby fixation and that her comment was innocuous.
I agree with most of the other comments - kids that age LOVE babies. If the center allows it - then I probably wouldn’t think much of it.
I do however find it strange that they have an open door policy in the infant room. I taught at an extended day preschool/daycare facility and the only people allowed in the infant room were family of those children and staff. The main reason for this was to limit germs, but also security.
There were three observation windows though - one in the hall - and one going into the classrooms on each side. EVERYONE stopped to look at the babies - they just couldn’t come in and fawn over them.
I agree with Rick, except i really would start charging. I do not let anyone look at my child without my permission. If they even glance in his direction i bill them. They either are required to pay me right away or I’ll ask for the address to mail it. J/K
It is kinda strange that anyone can walk into the infant room, talk to the director regarding policy.
I work at a Mothers Day Out and in the baby room we have some babies whose older age siblings attend as well. Once in a while the older child will want to go visit their ‘baby’ and the teacher walks them down. Maybe your son invited the little boy to with him at some time.
Also, he might have never ‘met’ your baby, just looks at her through the door and thinks she the daisiest!!!
I don’t really see a problem either unless you get the feeling the other mother is some kind of psycho. If she is you should probably change daycare regardless if she visits the little one or not.
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I’ve got to admit I don’t see any issue here… I think the human race could do with MORE of this instead of less.
I’ve been parenting for many years and have used various care centers and there has never been any prohibition around visiting other classrooms that I can recall.
You got me all curious — what did you want to do?? I’d love to hear more perspectives ’cause I’m just not seeing something that you are, it seems.
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